June 18Jun 18 #547 Link to comment https://community.webinsiders.com/topic/151-handling-jealousy-when-peers-succeed-faster/ Share on other sites Share on Facebook {lang="reddit_text" Share on LinkedIn Share on Pinterest Share on X More sharing options... A friend started the same time as me. She just hit six figures. I am at $40K. I am happy for her but I also feel like I am failing. How do you manage the comparison without letting it destroy your motivation?
June 18Jun 18 Author #624 Link to comment https://community.webinsiders.com/topic/151-handling-jealousy-when-peers-succeed-faster/#findComment-624 Share on other sites Share on Facebook {lang="reddit_text" Share on LinkedIn Share on Pinterest Share on X More sharing options... @SamC @DerekNoBS @Marcus Chen Update: I messaged my friend. Congratulated her. Asked how she did it. She offered to mentor me. Turns out her "overnight success" was four years of failed attempts before I met her. Perspective changes everything. Thank you all.
June 21Jun 21 #901 Link to comment https://community.webinsiders.com/topic/151-handling-jealousy-when-peers-succeed-faster/#findComment-901 Share on other sites Share on Facebook {lang="reddit_text" Share on LinkedIn Share on Pinterest Share on X More sharing options... @HannahK It’s hard not to compare, but I try to remind myself everyone’s timing is different. Their win doesn’t cancel yours.. you’re just on your own track. Edited June 21Jun 21 by Sophia
Friday at 02:49 PM5 days #1317 Link to comment https://community.webinsiders.com/topic/151-handling-jealousy-when-peers-succeed-faster/#findComment-1317 Share on other sites Share on Facebook {lang="reddit_text" Share on LinkedIn Share on Pinterest Share on X More sharing options... The best part of solopreneurship? No meetings that could have been emails. The worst part? No one to bounce ideas off.
Tuesday at 10:56 AM1 day #1644 Link to comment https://community.webinsiders.com/topic/151-handling-jealousy-when-peers-succeed-faster/#findComment-1644 Share on other sites Share on Facebook {lang="reddit_text" Share on LinkedIn Share on Pinterest Share on X More sharing options... I started messaging people when I felt jealous. Forced myself to celebrate them. It was awkward at first. Now it feels natural and my network is stronger.
Tuesday at 06:37 PM1 day #1704 Link to comment https://community.webinsiders.com/topic/151-handling-jealousy-when-peers-succeed-faster/#findComment-1704 Share on other sites Share on Facebook {lang="reddit_text" Share on LinkedIn Share on Pinterest Share on X More sharing options... started a jealousy journal. when i feel it, i write what exactly i'm jealous of. usually it's not their success, it's my perceived lack of progress. clarifies the real issue.
Tuesday at 07:47 PM1 day #1715 Link to comment https://community.webinsiders.com/topic/151-handling-jealousy-when-peers-succeed-faster/#findComment-1715 Share on other sites Share on Facebook {lang="reddit_text" Share on LinkedIn Share on Pinterest Share on X More sharing options... Jealousy usually means I want what they have but I'm not willing to do what they did. Honest assessment kills envy faster than any pep talk.
22 hours ago22 hr #1758 Link to comment https://community.webinsiders.com/topic/151-handling-jealousy-when-peers-succeed-faster/#findComment-1758 Share on other sites Share on Facebook {lang="reddit_text" Share on LinkedIn Share on Pinterest Share on X More sharing options... realized i was jealous of people in completely different life stages. comparing my year two to their year eight. now i only compare to myself at the same stage. much healthier.
22 hours ago22 hr #1764 Link to comment https://community.webinsiders.com/topic/151-handling-jealousy-when-peers-succeed-faster/#findComment-1764 Share on other sites Share on Facebook {lang="reddit_text" Share on LinkedIn Share on Pinterest Share on X More sharing options... I hired someone I was jealous of as a coach. Expensive. Worth it. Turned competition into mentorship.
18 hours ago18 hr #1780 Link to comment https://community.webinsiders.com/topic/151-handling-jealousy-when-peers-succeed-faster/#findComment-1780 Share on other sites Share on Facebook {lang="reddit_text" Share on LinkedIn Share on Pinterest Share on X More sharing options... Turned jealousy into curiosity. messaged someone i envied and asked how they did it. turned into a mentorship. most people are generous if you approach with genuine curiosity.
14 hours ago14 hr #1797 Link to comment https://community.webinsiders.com/topic/151-handling-jealousy-when-peers-succeed-faster/#findComment-1797 Share on other sites Share on Facebook {lang="reddit_text" Share on LinkedIn Share on Pinterest Share on X More sharing options... Unfollowed everyone in my industry for a month. anxiety dropped 50%. now i curate ruthlessly. my feed is peers at similar stages, not people who make me feel inadequate.
7 hours ago7 hr #1836 Link to comment https://community.webinsiders.com/topic/151-handling-jealousy-when-peers-succeed-faster/#findComment-1836 Share on other sites Share on Facebook {lang="reddit_text" Share on LinkedIn Share on Pinterest Share on X More sharing options... The person i was most jealous of? we ended up collaborating. the jealousy was actually admiration i was too insecure to acknowledge. partnership is better than competition.
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